Dildos are one of the most commonly used sexual health products among adults. However, with countless models on the market, choosing one can be confusing. In this guide, we rank the features an ideal dildo should have, from safety to comfort.
1. Material: Safety Comes First
Sex toys come into contact with the body's most sensitive tissues. Therefore, choosing the right material is the most critical decision.
- Medical-grade/platinum silicone: Non-porous, odorless, easy to clean, and long-lasting. It is the first choice of most experts.
- Glass and stainless steel: Non-porous, hygienic, and suitable for temperature play; their weight provides a different sensation.
- ABS plastic: A hard, non-porous, and affordable option.
- TPE / TPR / “jelly” materials: Soft and realistic, but they can be porous, may harbor bacteria, and cannot be fully sterilized. If you use them, it is recommended to use them with a condom and clean them thoroughly.
Research has shown that some inexpensive PVC toys may contain plasticizers such as phthalates. Therefore, look for a “phthalate-free” label and buy from reputable retailers.
2. Size: Bigger Is Not Always Better
- For beginners: A usable length of 12–16 cm and a diameter of 3–3.5 cm is comfortable for most people.
- Usable length: Consider the part that can enter the body, not the total length.
- Diameter is more important than length: It is the main factor affecting comfort.
Starting small and moving to different sizes as you gain experience is the safest approach.
3. Shape and Design
- Realistic: Natural feel with vein and glans details.
- Curved (G-spot): A slight bend targeting the front vaginal wall.
- Smooth / minimalist: Easy to clean, simple design.
- Double-ended: For shared use by partners.
4. Base: Suction Cups and Safety
A suction cup base allows for hands-free use and adheres to flat surfaces such as shower walls. If you are considering anal use, a wide base that prevents the toy from slipping inside is essential; products without a base may require emergency medical attention if inserted anally.
5. Firmness
Soft and flexible models are more comfortable for beginners; firm models provide more pronounced stimulation. Dual-layer silicone (a firm core and a soft outer layer) combines the benefits of both.
6. Additional Features
- Vibration, heating, or thrusting motion
- Rechargeable battery and waterproofing
- Harness compatibility
You can explore options in different materials and sizes in our dildo and vibrator collection.
Lubricant Compatibility
Use water-based lubricants with silicone toys; silicone-based lubricants can damage the silicone surface over time. Any type of lubricant can be used with glass and steel. Lubricants
Cleaning and Storage
Clean before and after every use with lukewarm water and unscented soap or a toy cleaner, dry completely, and store in a separate pouch away from dust. For more information, see our toy cleaning guide.
Sources
- Herbenick D et al. Prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by women in the United States. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2009.
- Danish Environmental Protection Agency. Survey of chemical substances in sex toys. 2006.
- Planned Parenthood. Sex toys: Are they safe? plannedparenthood.org
This content is for general informational purposes. In case of pain, bleeding, or a retained object, seek medical attention immediately.
