Sex toys are not just for solo use. Research shows that using vibrators with a partner is quite common and is positively associated with sexual function. With the right choice and open communication, toys can open up a new area of intimacy for couples.
How to suggest it to your partner?
- Choose the right time: Talk at a relaxed moment outside the bedroom.
- An addition, not a deficiency: Saying “I want to try something new with you” does not send a message that “something is missing.”
- Choose together: Browsing the site together is both fun and helps clarify expectations.
- Start small: The first product should be a simple and non-intimidating model.
The most popular toys for couples
Vibrating penis ring
It is placed at the base of the penis; it can support firmness by slowing blood flow, while its vibrating part stimulates the female partner's clitoris during penetration. It is the best first step for many couples. It should not be used for more than 30 minutes and should be removed immediately if numbness, cooling, or pain occurs.
Couples vibrator (U-shaped)
One end is placed in the vagina, the other on the clitoris; it stays attached during intercourse and transmits vibration to both partners.
Remote-controlled / app-controlled
One partner wears it while the other controls the remote or phone app. It is ideal for play, anticipation, and long-distance relationships.
Bullet vibrator
It is small and versatile; it can be used for clitoral stimulation during foreplay or intercourse.
Massage and sensory products
Products such as massage oils, eye masks, and feathers are a gentle start for couples who are not ready for toys.
Mild fantasy products
Soft handcuffs and role-playing accessories can be tried after discussing boundaries and a safe word. Fantasy products
You can find all couple products in our partner toys collection.
Usage tips
- Charge and clean the toy before using it for the first time.
- Start at a low setting; stay in constant communication.
- Choose a water-based lubricant; do not use silicone-based lubricants with silicone products.
- Don't lose your sense of humor: First attempts can sometimes be awkward, and that is part of the fun.
- Clean it after use and store it in separate bags.
Resources
- Herbenick D et al. Women's vibrator use in sexual partnerships: results from a nationally representative survey in the United States. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 2010.
- Reece M et al. Prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by men in the United States. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2009.
- NHS. Erectile dysfunction: treatment (vacuum pumps and constriction rings). nhs.uk
This content is for general information purposes only; it is not a substitute for diagnosis and treatment.
